Condom Q&A

When is the right time to talk about condoms?

Some young people say it can be difficult to talk about condoms with the person you are thinking about having sex with. But it’s really important to talk BEFORE things start happening. This guide should help you to have a conversation about condoms. And, don’t wait to be asked – the other person probably feels just as embarrassed as you!

Do I need to use condoms if she’s on the pill?

The pill will help protect from unplanned pregnancy, but condoms are the only contraceptive that protects against STIs (infections) as well as pregnancy.

I’ve been going out with my boyfriend/ girlfriend for a while – do we still need to use condoms?

However long you’ve been together, you can still get an STI (infection). Remember that many infections can take months to show any symptoms, and some never show any at all.

So, you can’t tell just by looking at someone if they have an STI.

If you have been together for some time and you want to stop using condoms, it’s a good idea for you both to get tested for STIs.

Are there special condoms for anal sex?

You can use stronger condoms (which are thicker), but standard condoms are just as good as long as they are used correctly and with plenty of water based lubricant.

I can’t keep my erection when I try to use a condom

Don’t worry, a lot of men have this problem. It often happens if you are feeling nervous or if you have been drinking alcohol or taking drugs before sex. Using condoms with confidence can take a bit of practice – try using them on your own before using them with your partner. You could also ask your partner to put the condom on for you, to help you stay hard.

Is it possible to be allergic to condoms?

It is rare, but some people are allergic to latex (the substance used to make the majority of condoms). If this applies to you, look for a condom made from polyurethane.

What’s the lube used for?

Lube is short for lubricant and is a slippery fluid that can be used on genitals to make sex smoother and prevent painful sex. It also reduces the chances of the condom breaking.

Condom ‘charging’ (putting a little extra lube onto the head of the penis before you roll the condom on) can feel good.

Always use water based lube. Oil based lube such as baby oil, lipstick or hand cream can damage condoms and make them split!

What should I do if the condom slips off or breaks during sex?

Tell your partner. You should get advice straight away – you can be tested for STIs and women can prevent pregnancy by using emergency contraception up to 72 hours after having sex. For more information go to our Need Help Now section.

Can I get an infection from oral sex?

Yes you can. Oral sex is when someone uses their mouth and tongue to stimulate the other person’s genitals (also called going down on someone or a blow job). You should always use protection such as a condom (which you get in different flavours) or a dental damn (sheet of latex).

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